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It's Metafilter's 20th anniversary! To celebrate, scan some cats or help fund Mefi! This is not a secret to either of them. This isn't being hidden from them: at the very least, Girl A knows that her friend Girl B also gave me her phone number. I find myself initially interested in both of them -- both are intelligent and striking women -- but I'm really clueless as to how to handle this situation in the best fashion. This assumes, of course, that I don't call the numbers in question and hear "Joey's Pizza" and "Frank's Pizza", respectively.
Whether you are playing a middle man in a relationship, a work environment, or in between friends, you could be doing more harm than good. Encourage any friends to speak to each other directly about issues they may have with one another, and every will be happier for it in the long run.
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The struggle can be all too real when two of your best friends start dating. You may experience an "I knew it" moment, because you probably. How to handle being the middleman when your two friends start a relationship together. Several years ago, I started dating my best friend. Now think about losing your partner and you best friend forever because you the two of you.
By Becca Castillo. Popular in Love and Other Near Disasters. More Close Close. Close Share options. Close View image. Though my style is see one on a Thurs around here like a l'il weekend then one on a Friday. Just call them on the same day so neither feels dissed. Don't forget--one night stands often happen back to back. Anyone have a theory as to why? I'm sure they both will have no problem with it, provided you don't sleep with one on the first date.
Just be honest about everything, and when you are sure you like one over the other or neither, let's be honest about all the possibilities heremake the break. They surely must have anticipated the possibility of both being interested in the same person s - in theory they probably offered their numbers to multiple people at the same speed dating event, and if they didn't want to compete they would have gone to different events.
Run, run like the wind.
Two of my best friends recently started dating each other, and while I am very stoked for them, I struggled a bit to come terms with it. On one. Last week, Modern Manners Guy Facebook friend Lilly emailed me about how two of her closest friends, Sarah and Kiel, recently started dating. My two best friends started dating, and though they've broken 'broken up', they act the exact same. They kiss, they snuggle, and kind of ignore.
Just because they say they're fine with each other being in the picture, it doesn't mean to say that they will be when one gets picked above the other.
It's a horrible drama waiting to happen. If he could pull that off with panache, why would he have asked this question? But yes, call them both the same day to head off any girl-competitiveness. For the love of god, do not wait until you've gone out with one before calling the other. As long as you don't actively try to play them off of each other, lie about seeing the other, or act like an asshole because yes, the other will hear about it you've got some time to see them seperately before weirdness sets in.
After all, they did go to speed dating together and sit next to each other. If sparks don't fly with either, then perhaps you have two new female friends.
How To Deal When Two Of Your Best Friends Start Dating
On the other hand, if either of them start acting very, very weird, then run Go out with both of them, at once, as friends. Like, go out with both of them to a restaurant, or coffee, or whatever. Treat it like you would any other casual outing with friends. No romance.
I double booked dates on a Thursday night, with best friends. I'm in a situation where two girls who are friends with each other have both given Furthermore, I should note that I've not had a great deal of. I was convinced we had no chemistry and that I ruined a perfectly-great friendship. (Then date two happened and we successfully made out.
No flowers. Go dutch.
Over time, you'll see if you want to pursue more of a relationship with either of them, but you can still be friendly with both. Or maybe that's bad advice.When Two of Your Friends Start Dating
Still thought I should throw it in the mix. I concur with the separate, casual dates plan, with calling them on the same day. I've been in a similar situation and it's really not wise to put friends into a competitive situation.
It's not worth it and it's really kind of a creepy, uncomfortable place to be. Pick one of them the prettier one bien sur and tell the other that you like her but she's not your type.
Go from there.
Trying to date both of them and be "fair" to both will just lead to unnecessary drama and confuzzlement on your part hence your question. Keep it simple and just be honest with yourself and your partners. My friends who have done speed dating have never had any lasting relationship come from it. Trust me dude, they've already talked about you, and if they're both going out with you, then you're part of a fun little "sex in the city" type experiment.
Dating 2 best friends
Just don't turn the dates into auditions and you'll be fine. Keep things light and try to have fun. If things progress, then they progress. The key is to not have any presumptions.
Just be honest about the ridiculousness of the situation. Revel in it a little bit. This is excellent advice. Try not to agonize, be upfront about the situation, and for god's sake don't say anything to one of them you woudn't want the other to hear, because it will be repeated. Probably nothing will come of it, but if you wind up getting together with either one, it will be a great story. Flagged a couple of derails. AskMe is not the place to exercise your wit.
Be very careful.
This situation is probably not about you.