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- by Gutaur
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You know those girls who refuse to date anyone younger than they are, much less anyone their own age? I am one of those people. Throughout my entire love life -- or whatever you want to call what has been 23 years of going through men, some for longer than others -- I have never so much as lusted after any guy who is younger than I am. And I obviously have the matching theory as to why to go along with it naturally, it involves being the younger sister. For me, and many other women like me , it all begins with a number. Seriously, though, it does. As much of our generation is delaying activities like marriage and procreating, we are, in effect, also prolonging its adolescence.
I suspect that men who date older women have realized that the only way to win at "my girlfriend is younger than yours" is not to play. Put another way, do you really want the respect of men who think this way about women?
Would it really make you feel better about yourself? This is not enough data to say anything about you. In fact, the only thing this tells me is that you are into this particular 31 year old woman. It could, maybe, suggest that you're more into 31 year olds than other women. If you really need to be older than your lady, just wait until you're 32 and start hitting on the 31 year olds. Ta da, problem solved. Or you could realize you're being ridiculous and ask this one out now.
This is only an issue if it's made into an issue. Live your life, man. I was 27, he was A week later he turned 21 and 2 weeks after that I was It didn't last, but he's still one of my favorite people in the world. We still root for each other. And it wasn't because of our ages that it didn't work out.
But even if it was, that doesn't mean it wouldn't have been worth it. That age gap itself is fine. No question. But the fact that it concerns you and you have to ask this question says to me, pretty strongly, that you personally shouldn't date this woman. Wilson at PM on June 3, [ 2 favorites ]. My oldest brother is 12 years younger than his wife. They have been together for 37 years and are happy by all accounts.
So yeah, it works. Whomever started that cougar and milf shit should die in a fire. I have been described as an "old soul", so it's not surprising I get along well with older women. As a year old, I dated a year old. In all cases, it was two people being attracted to each other, not two numbers.
Life is too. Just be open and honest, listen to both your heart and your mind, and it is hard for things to go too wrong. Don't worry about it. My wife is 5 years older than I am. We met and knew within 3 days that we were meant for each other, and we've been married for 30 years. Last summer I dated a woman who is nearly five years older than me.
I never cared a bit about the age difference. She, on the other hand, never seemed to get over the age gap. Thus, we only lasted a couple of months.
5 years at that age is not a big deal at all, but at the same time, I, as a 27 year old woman, do NOT find ~24 year year old guys attractive, they. r/AskMen: r/AskMen: the premier place to ask random strangers for terrible dating advice, but preferably from the male perspective. And don't be an . could date a year-old, most year-old women don't feel comfortable doing that, In considering the appropriate age of your next dating partner, But when you are 30, and they are 24, your new age range is 22, and.
But, had she been OK with the gap as I wasthe relationship may have lasted a good bit longer. TLDR - Age difference is only a problem if you think it is. My male fiance is younger than me, a lady! And honestly, it's normal to freak out about this stuff even if you are super-enlightened.
I did. I consider myself super-feminist, but still had this idea in my head that women don't date younger men, because they're less mature, and make worse relationships. My fiance reminded me that we share the same cultural touch points. Y craze that lasted all of about five minutes?
We're very happy. That said, while it's normal to worry about it briefly, if you stick with these concerns, it might mean that there are some lingering insecurities. Yup, it's fine. I've done it at 30 and She was a little uncomfortable with the idea for the first month, worrying that maybe she was too old for me, but it turned out to be fine.
We just enjoyed the hell out of each other. Here's a good rule of thumb: Question any assumption that requires you to judge a woman negatively for being a woman and doing the same damn thing as you. In other words, either a five year age difference between consenting adults is creepy or it isn't.DATING AN OLDER GUY - OFF LIMITS #23 & 24 ( episode )
The older party being a woman doesn't somehow make it wrong, that's a sexist double standard and it's bullshit. Think of it this way: do you really think there's something wrong with this women that you find attractive and whose personality you like if she happens likes you back? Does that sound like any kind of healthy or happy way to approach a relationship? Women are people, just like you. Behave accordingly. You've got plenty of good advice here so this is just a little story: She was 42 and he was 30 when they met at work.
They fell in love and were partners; they had two sons and raised them. They were together for 21 years. Was it ok?
Did it work? I guess you'd have to ask Susan Sarandon and Tim Robbins. When I was 26, my boyfriend was We lasted 10 great years together. When I was 42, my boyfriend was We made a great couple, and were together for years as well. In both relationships, I very much felt we were equals. Two people, well met, who happened to have an age gap. No big whoop. The only times it got twitchy was when we'd go out to bars, and the guy would get carded, and the doorman's face would contort in confusion, trying to decide which would be less awkward: carding a woman who was obviously "of age," or NOT carding her.
Ha ha ha My wife is five years older than me. The cougarMILF protection squad has yet to come knocking at our door. Seriously, not only is the five year age difference not an issue, but 31 is not old by any stretch of the imagination - except that which has decided that 30 year old women are past their expiration date and everyone past that point needs pity and wrinkle cream.
This is the segment of our society that sells magazines telling women to look younger and telling men that younger women are more valuable.
Don't listen to it. Why don't you ask her our first and start dating and then see if you two are compatible?
It's not that it's not okay to date them, I'm just not into them. And maybe if I got to know them I would change my mind, but just from looking at them, I can appreciate a good looking year old, but I am just not attracted to them. So ask her out first, see how it goes, and don't overthink the age thing. Hopefully she doesn't think the same way I do. Which leads me to believe that some single guy wrote this on a dating site because he can't meet someone. Is that really who you want to believe?
Also: Hi. I'm a 31 year old female. If some year old dude referred to me as a cougar, I'd probably smack him right upside the head. Ask her out if you are ok with dating an older woman. Older women are awesome because we're well established, are independent, have careers, cool interests and do fun stuff. Some of us even have accepted ourselves and our bodies for what they are and are over the phase of trying to be something we're not. We're awesome because we're confident, fun and know ourselves pretty well and are comfortable in our own skin.
I am a year-old woman who has dated a couple year-old men recently. Age doesn't really enter into it at all. One of these relationships hasn't worked out because year-old Guy A is fairly immature and insecure, but that doesn't have much to do with his age--I know year-old men who are equally immature and insecure, and year-old Guy B is perfectly mature and secure.
I'm not sure what you think "31 years old" means or looks like, but I don't look or act much differently than I did when before I crossed that magical line into my 30s that doesn't actually mean anything at all, and when I am out with year-old men no one notices the small age difference. Most people assume we are roughly the same age because we are! I think commenters above have already covered the sadness and wrongness of the myth that there is something wrong or less-desirable about "older women.
You seem to think that she likes you, but do you like her? I am not sure that I see that anywhere in your question. Do not let people like this drag you down to their level. Only qualified for retail jobs It's difficult sometimes to see him going through some of the hard lessons that I had to go through at that age. But I can't learn those lessons for him.
And can I say, I HATE it when people find out that he's 5 years younger and automatically say "ooooh, you're a cougar! That term feels derogatory to me. There is nothing wrong or gross or manipulative about dating a younger man. Most of the time I forget our age difference even exists. He's fun, he loves me, I've never been with a more devoted man or someone who encourages me to be my best more than him.
I've dated 2, 3 years older than me but it turned out to be hell. This guy has everything I could ask for in a companion.
The scary part now is he's feeling lost, feeling like he doesn't knw who he is anymore. He wants to be with me. He says its nothing that im doing he just doesn't know where he's going. Did you ever deal with this with your guy.
I try not to nag but I have asked question just to get a abetter understanding of where he's at, where were at. He shows affection, love, we laugh and play but then he shifts back into his mood. I was told to support him because although he doesn't say it. He needs support. I give him space I just dnt know how to deal sometimes. Seeing how you've married someone 5 years younger I just want to know ur take on it. Yes we have talked about a future but that's something we don't focus on because were still getting ourselves together…but the want is there…….
Hi…I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 19 too. I let him call the shots in the relationship because I want him to feel entitled, not like he's my boytoy, or someone he has to listen to and obey just because I'm older and …well I was crying about Kurt Cobain dying when the year he was born.
He's younger than my baby brother but it doesn't feel like that when we're together. If your guy is feeling lost then with your experience, just guide him. Teenagers are really tricky, I mean sometimes I actually feel protective of him as if I'm his mom or something because the kid in him pops up.
But I know he'll mature up eventually and become a great man, and I can't wait to be with him then. Its a lot of waiting, because where I come from, women who don't get married before 25 are considered 'old', but obv i have to make concessions for his age which I do happily.
He's all the man I need when we're together and alone, but sometimes when he's messing around with me saying stuff like, "I can't decide whether I like your boobs or my xbox better" makes me think, that well…I need patience. Opposingly, I'm am currently in a relationship with a wonderful man who is 10 years old than I.
We are doing marvelously. Even though I'm 19 and he is 28, our personalities mesh perfectly, and although others including close family and friends tend to frown down upon the rather large age gap, I am not ashamed in the least.
He has the opportunity to show me new things, share knowledge and stories, and encourage me in my decisions, while I'm able to bring him back to the fun side of life, spontaneity, and remind him that it's okay to be an idiot sometimes. Our relationship is mature, stable and completely amazing. I currently am 28, and I have it bad for a 22 year old. We were friends 1st but I don't know if he's ready for what I'm ready for.
The sex is out of this world he's in my top 3; I've also dated a man 9yrs older than me I was 18, he was 27 and it lasted 4 yes but I usually am not attracted to older men. I'm just curious as to whether this is weird, so bare with me, yeah? I'm 16, 17 in about 3ish months. He's 14, fifteen in just under a month.
He's ridiculously mature for his age, and he is absolutely gorgeous. I know that the age gap seems big now, because we're in high school but honestly, he's taller than me, he's well spoken, he has manners that are out of this world, he's genius smart and he doesnt really LOOK a year and almost ten months younger. But some people think it's weird. What do you think? It feels so weird tho. Should I go for it or no? I am thirty-three and am starting to go out with a twenty year old I know it barely makes a difference, but he is turning twenty-one a month from now.
It wasn't planned. We didn't even know how old the other one was in the beginning. There was just mutual attraction and chemistry. Same here, i am 32 and my guy is It was a fling that felt like i'd met my soulmate but of course reality hit us hard and we ended up pregnant. Now im at a crossroad because my guy doesnt want to keep it but i feel this baby deserves a life no matter the circumstances, we are now not a couple so hes really pushing abortion but im not with it i know it will be a struggle but my gut is telling me to go for it and everything will be ok.
Hi, am 42 years old, and he is I do feel the age difference, what I mean sometimes I feel much more mature than him. However, we're having wonderful time together.
And yes, I do think back when I was in my 30's, would I be into a serious relationship? Probably not! So I really each and every minute I spend with him. I've just got involved with a 20 year old I'm 32 things are Fab he looks older and I'm told I look younger.
After years of dating older men I've finally met my match. Hello I have some questions for you. But I feel like its wrong…how can I get over that or can I. I'm dating a boy who is two years younger than me, sometimes he is immature, but at the same time, he is so fun to be with! Older men sometimes tend to be boring. But a problem with my guy is he won't make out with me! Any suggestions? My current boyfriend is 19 but he's turning 20 next month.
I think the reason why I'm feeling attracted to younger men is the fact that I'm going through quarter life crisis, it's started when I was only Hi — Im 53, my guy is 35,I dont look my age at all, he thought I was way younger.
Im also very youthfull, and look after myself, with a fun persanality. Its been about a year now, so far its great, he is very serious about our relationship, and we never talk about our age difference. My Sons think he is 39, Im scared to tell them he is Any Comments. I'm really glad to find this blog with everyone's comments. I met a wonderful guy who is extremely smart, same sense of humour, is better travelled than I am, and has a number of other commonalities between us.
My reservation was that I am 29 in a month and he is 24 and not turning 25 for a while.
I'm He's I have feelings for him. Does the age gap matter? 2, Views .. I am dating a man 13 years older than me, I am What are. Oh God, here I go, writing yet another article about relationships I might come to regret a year from now. Well, that's OK. Your 20s are supposed. Ok so i have to say im 45 my bf is 24 and im in love. I never .. 27 dating 23 year old and I swear in my life I never met a man more honest and.
I had pondered, mulled, agonized and deliberated over whether to pursue it. But he ended up 'making a move' and I am now really happy. The age difference was my ONLY reservation. If he'd been 34 I wouldn't have hesitated at all. Which when you think about it is a pretty silly way of thinking about dating.
I've decided I'm going to focus on the awesome person that he is and how much I enjoy his company. Not on his age as much as humanly possible anyway.
I'm 26 and dating a 19 yr old guy who absolutely worships me! Since the world is still so new to him it's fun to take him around and explore old places that I felt excited to go to when I was that age. He reminds me of my crazy fun tenacious self and even brings it out of me! Us ladies get so caught up paying our bills and performing well at work, we forget to just have crazy stupid fun!! I suggest you all go get a younger man that hasn't been soured by life's cruel ways!
Not to be blunt either but did you all forget that men peak sexually at !!!! Best sex of my life!!! I'm 50, and I've been seeing a 28 year old man for a month now. This is not a commitment kind of relationship, and the freedom that comes from being with someone just for fun is exhilarating! His boyish enthusiasm is like a breath of fresh air for me, and he enjoys my level of experience. Our honesty is of a level I never have experienced with other lovers- no secrets whatsoever.
I know that what we have can't last forever, but it sure as hell is fun right now so I plan on going for it until it runs its course. Nice to hear your comment, I am having sex with a 30 yr old, I am almost54, he makes me feel young again, he keeps telling me he loves me I finally told him I love him, but he still wants to have sex with other women, he holds my hand kisses me, and hugs me in public.
He keeps thinking about in the future when he is a certain age and me being 23 yrs older. I want to keep seeing him, but the other women scare me.
The only positive thing about it is, while we age and keep looking good we will still be able to tap into the grad-school girls age looking. I started dating a man and we have an amazing connection. I'm He's I know he's not old enough to really be my father, but he's up. You know those girls who refuse to date anyone younger than they are, much less anyone their own age? They have a specific, thought-out.
Can u give me any suggestions. I'm 23 and I'm currently dating a guy who's Much like some of the positive stories on here, we have a great relationship so far. He's selfless, kind, thoughtful, supportive, and mature. Age does not determine your level of love anymore than going to a supermarket with no money will buy you groceries.
I'm 23 to turn 24 next month, and I'm starting to date a boy who will turn 17 this year. I really don't know what to do, I'm REALLY happy when I'm with him, he makes me feel good, and he is also happy with me, but the fact that he's still underage makes me feel so bad. What should I do? Anonymous, there's nothing particularly outrageous about what you're saying and it sounds like you should just discretely see how it goes. But if it's making you feel uncomfortable then step back from it.
It's not an incredible age difference, to be honest. I'm a 29 year-old woman, and I just started dating a 25 year-old. I've never dated anyone younger than me, but I have to say it makes a refreshing change.
He is so respectful of all of the achievements I have, sweet and very loving…he also talks me up so much to his friends as though I'm a princess I like to think it's not just because I'm older and have done more, but still…. Definitely pro dating younger. Men my age don't seem to know what they want, don't recognise what's good when they have it, or have too many hang-ups to unpack without losing your mind a little in the process! I totally agree with you! Like my bf is 6 years younger than me but he looks older than me cause of our difference race.
I agree that older men now a days don't know what they want in life or they have way to much problems to bring with them. My bf knows exactly what he wants in life and how to achieve his goals. Hi well I am not married or anything I just am beginning to date a guy 3 years younger than me I'm 17 and he's 14 so is this bad?? I don't know how this happened it just did he treats me differently than any guy I've dated and trust me they were my age or even older.
Can anybody give me an advise? Btw my parents won't agree with this relationship pleas reapond…. I don't age, at all, it is like science fiction. Everyone who meets me believes I am 18 and so when I tell them I am 28 I am laughed at, called a "liar", and told "no, you are 18". So I stopped trying to be honest about my age about a year ago and everything goes smoothly…. So he is 18 and he thinks I am I am 28…. I am seriously thinking about writing a book about the whole thing. I'm much older than the ladies who have posted here, but here we go.
I'm 55, though I don't look it. He had one groomsman who I didn't know, and before we knew who each other was, we hit it off. There was plenty of sexual tension and then I learned he was a groomsman and he found out I was his best friend's mom. Oh, dear! He is still in my life, and I love him dearly. We are excellent friends — good, good friends — but I'm a realist. When he asked me if I'd consider marriage, I had to tell him no, but not because I don't love him.
I said no because I DO love him. Our 25 year difference might not matter now, but 20 years from now it would be a huge deal, and I could not do that to him.
We do love each other, and speaking for myself, I will always love him. I love this man so much, and vice versa, that when I told him I wanted to write a book about our affair he was all for it. I'm writing what I call a trovel — it's a novel with more truth than fiction. The title is The Groomsman and I'm at about pages now. It's my testament of the greatest love I've ever felt for anyone other than my son and daughter.
It was awesome, fun, exhilarating and yes, taboo to have such a younger lover and it's priceless to have such a great friend. I am dating a 23 yr old and I am He looks older and I look younger so we "shave 10 yrs off both ends and end up with only a yr age difference. I teach Ashtanga Yoga and he is a Break Dancer.
We met dancing 6 months ago. NEVER planned to see him again. He tried to see me for two months and I finally gave in. I knew I would have no will power the chemistry was so great. Now 4 months into it he wants to marry me, move in together, be together "forever. I plan to live and work until I am plus and if he lasts to 82???
I know I am crazy… Someone needs to help me. I feel so much love. Hi, I see you posted this back in Are you still with this man. I am in the same boat as you with the same age difference. I was wondering how that is working out for you. I really love being with the person i am with but we get so much grief from some people about the age difference.
I was wondering if we could talk maybe. I have fallen in love with a 29 year old man and I'm a younger looking and minded 56 year old woman. We have so much fun together and have slept together for over a month every Saturday night. We have not had sex but I really want to. Any advice from anyone would be appreciated.
I am close with his family and don't want them to be disappointed in me but I really have become so attached to him. He is very mature for 29 and is loving and caring. I can't wait to see him again. We used to hang out one day a week now its getting like three nights a week. I want him with me every night. He has not pushed me to have sex but massages me and we cuddle like lovers.
I think if I gave sex with him it will take us both to the next level but it could do the opposite. Scared to take that leap of faith but I'm going to. I think in the end age doesn't really matter any more.
I'm 22 and i'm in love with a 16 year old. Now dating my bf who's of course 6 years younger than me, alot of people would question and compare. Were waiting till he gets into his 20's but for a young guy he's so much more mature than guys my age. He treats me well and is able to understand me. He is super stubborn and not exactly the most romantic guy but he does alot of sweet things to make up for it. He's the first guy that i can relax around. Guys that were older than me that went for me.
I think over all don't let age stop you from getting someone that you truly love! Don't give up girls out there :]! I am going out with a younger guy who is I am Everyone says I look much younger than my age which is good and I am not attracted to many older guys anyway. My problem is that the guy i am seeing thinks i am If he truly cares for you, it should not matter to him if your 45 or 50! Tell him your age, don't keep secrets at this point in your Relationship, honesty is the best policy!
We share common interests in almost every aspect of our lives, we constantly talk and joke, and he is soooooooooooooooo kind to me all the time. We also share extreme interest in sports and playing sports as well. We are both Christians. The thing is, he is 20 and in college.
I am 15 and going into the 10th grade. Sometimes I wonder if I should try to pursue a relationship with him or just continue to be best friends. I am pretty convinced that he is at least hinting that he has some interest in me, but that might just be because I want for him to be hinting at that.
So, do you guys think he is too old for me? Do you think I should pursue him gradually over time until I am older and more sure of myself? Help please!!! I am 28 and dating a 22 year old guy.
We started off as friends and I've always enjoyed his company. Five months ago things took a different turn when he held my hand. I was at a really good place in my life and it hit a spot.
I mean I think I was genuinely touched and that it wasn't at all out of despair or loneliness. From that moment on, we started spending a lot of time together. He is an earnest person, very committed to the relationship, and he more than adores me.
The only problem though is that despite the fact that things are going extremely well between us, I have the deep conviction that it is bound to end. I find myself constantly mentally preparing myself for the ultimate break up.
I would really love to believe in this, but the realist in me keeps shaking off all fantasies of a future together. My story is a bit different. I blog and through my blogging I met a gentleman who could quite honestly be perfect for me. We have sent so many messages to each other and have video chatted on skype and since he lives about a four hour drive away, we've talked about making plans to visit. We have the same values and share a huge common interest in music, authors and art.
He is respectful and calls me 'dear one' and picks up on my bad vibes and tries to talk me out of them. The only issue is that he is 19 and I'm He's said that in no way does it bother him and that our shared values and connection mean more to him than my age ever will.
27 dating 24
I don't look my age at all. I hope we can meet one day soon and see what will happen.
Also, "cradle robbing" runs in my family: my grandpa is 10 years older than my grandma happily married for 51 yearsmy mom is 3 years older than my dad together for 33 years and married for 30 and many of my cousins are dating or have dated much younger counterparts!
Here goes, I just turned 50 and tomorrow, I will be going out on a lunch date with a 31 year old, he's 19 years my junior! He started to casually hint that he would like to date an older woman as ladies his age want to get married and have children! Well he finally asked me out and tomorrow we are heading out for lunch! I do have to say that he is such a gentleman, very respectful, responsible, kind, etc!
I have never met a guy like him before and I have dated in my own age range for the past 9 years, so I would be foolish to pass this up, he would be a wonderful catch! Wish me luck!!! I am in my first relationship with a younger guy. He is 22, I am We started talking on an online dating site and hit off from there.
We have quite a bit in common and he treats me so well. At first I wasn't feeling it because of the age difference and I usually go out with guys the same age as me or a couple of years older. I even told a few of my friends that he was 5 years younger than me and they say that's not bad. No one really feels anyway towards it.
He never cared from the beginning and after people had told me that itd not a big deal I began not caring about it either. We are dating with the potencial of getting married eventually… God willing. There are somethings that drew me in connection with him, its that there is something abit sexy about dating a younger guy. O well, the point is too that we have the same goals and the same beliefs and the same respect for each other.
You could date someone 2, 3, 5 to 10 years older than you and he can treat you like crap or be immature. As long as my man is legal, mature, has his stuff together and treats me like a woman is suppose to be treated, that's all that matters.
Im dating a 19 yr old im 41, im hiding this relationship i have a daughter his age don't know how my family will react to this! My kids like him they just think we good friends. My boyfriend is 26 and I'm 30 and I love his drive in anything he does! I was married to a 32 year old and we grew apart due to our relationship being so boring… My boyfriend makes me feel so special and important and gives me all the attention I want.
He's truly understanding and appreciates me. I wouldn't have it any other way! I'm 9years older than my bf I'm 33 and he is the most amazing man I've ever dated.
I'm his first official girlfriend and he's never dated someone for longer than a month.
He is sweet kind and caring though after three months I feel like his interest may be waning he used to. I am worried that as I become more attached he is becoming more disinterested. Also he doesn't know what he wants e. I now know that my feelings for him are very deep and I fear I'm getting attached to someone who is going to burn me he may be gone for career training out of town for many months.
I am confused and already feeling the heartbreak but I Dont know what to do…just reaching out on this thread because it seems like there's a lot of women in somewhat similar predicaments who may be able to lend some advice or perspective.
Thanks in advance…. I really appreciate it…:s. I just turned 21 and my amazing man is 19 turning 20 in few months. We've been together for almost 2 years and I can tell I've never been and never will be this happy. Even though I've always thought that I would like to be with a man years older than me, I've never have had the chance God must know why.
I've only dated 2 other guys, the first one was only few months my junior, and the other one 1 year older than me…… I can't even describe the way my guy makes me feel, he is just the sweetest man in the world. I took the time to read ALL of your stories and it is really heartwarming reading stuff like this.
Like you, I've had my doubts, but honestly i can't imagine anything better than what i have. I'm 50 and my man is 22. We live together…. Our love is very strong. Awe that is a great story, I fell in love first site of my 30 yr old boytoy, he told me he loved me me the first date, I told him twice not to say that, but on tuesday I told him I love him, he says he still wants sex with other women, becacause he is scared of out age difference for the future, asked me to marry him, I told him no without a ring.
I am scared to death. Same situation been together for 3 yrs when we met at a mutual job he worked the kitchen later on became manager. We talk about it then both cling to each other for dear life. I have just started going out with a year-old man. I am a year-old woman. We both have kids from previous relationships and neither of us wants more, so there won't be that issue.
It's early days but I think he's a keeper. We both want a long-term commitment, and based on his demeanour and actions I believe he is emotionally capable of it. I am the happiest I've ever been! Its been so much fun, all we do is laugh and cut up; to me he is just perfection. The only thing that I find wrong with him is the fact that he cant be straight forward. However, I just worry that I am getting old, and I need to settle down, start having babies and such and he is in his prime… Just makes you think about things, I would give anything to be 5 years younger.
I love my 23 year old boyfriend. I am 31 and honestly I wouldn't change anything about our relationship. We were meant for each other. He makes me feel like I've never felt, a love no one could ever take. I love you always Matthew. I have been seeing a French guy for two years, everything is perfect and very much in love. He is 26 and I am We don't look any different in age. He has just decided to end the relationship as his strict french parents won't approve if we take it further.
Are french parents really that draconian and are their children really that guided by them. He cried when he made the decision and said he will never forget me. It was all really sad. It would have been better if the relationship itself had run it's course. Im 23 and married to a man who is 21 and age has never been a issue for me as were both on the same pathhowever he has always had a mindset of fearing of being judged and cause I'm different cause of the age gap.
Any advice and help? I wouldn't worry about that age gap. I met him a little over 4 years ago…and we have been through a very emotional relationship. I have no children and very much one day hope I will be blessed with at least one. We lived together for a year and I kept bringing up kids in a very subtle way every once in awhile, three times to be exact, and each time he would make me cry by his responses.
We would break up get back together and break up then my sister found him on a dating website. I loved him soo much I didn't care. Then a day before our three year anniversary he dumped me through text saying he only had time for his kid and himself.
I moved out that day before he got out of work. Fact was he was too young then and after a 7 month breakup with no contact he begged me back. That was the most brutal 7 months in my life.
Dating when you're 27 years old
We got back together he said he wants kids with me and eventually marriage…but I suspect he is changing his mind again. But I can't help my dreams of being a mom someday when he has a blessing of an awesome kid himself. I feel sad that he has the most important thing I might never have if I stay.
I'm not getting any younger and the years are running by quicker. I think age does matter when younger they are still trying to figure out what they want in life they have all the time in the world to change their mind. I believe maybe once he is in his late 20's it may be different then but too late for me…. It just doesn't work for me right now. Reading your stories though it comforts me knowing there are others that are older than their guys and are very happy.
Maybe one day I will…. Okay older chickies question: lol were any of you nervous about showing your older body to a hot young sexy guy?? Cuz I am!! No cause if you have a nice body u shouldn't. Be nervous n i really look young for 36 n my hubby 26 and is a good relationship we have n i dont have kids but we planning to ….
I have started seeing and talking to a guy that is 20 and I'm 24 what should I do to keep him happy and in my life any advice? Im 36 going to 37 and my hubby is 26 we been together for a year and 5 months he will be 27 on feb.
And we are the best couple eventhough all relationship are not perfect,he is so jealous with me that he be accusing me of cheating n things i really dont look my age i look way younger than my age…. So I was quite relieved to read this article because for a few weeks now I have been struggling with this new relationship I am in.
I'll start by saying I have only ever dated a younger guy once and even then the difference wasn't even a year. Other than that the men in my life have always been older than I am. My last relationship of 4 years was with a man 13 years older than me. Now I am dating a man 8 years younger. He is funny and smart, kind and caring.
Basically he worships the ground I walk on and care for him very much! I feel terrible because I'm worried what people will think, especially his family.
My family won't even notice because my sister in law is 10 years older than my brother. Does anyone have any advice for a woman new to dating younger men? I have been dating younger guys for a long time and you give a youngher guy the chance and he with try to knock you up. I recently started a relationship with a 20 year old. With me being a month shy of 35 im very worried about our age difference, however he is so sweet and mature for his age.
He always wants to go out but Im scared of the looks that we may get in the street. I dont look ancient but he looks younger than 20 to me. I like him alot and our chemistry has been amazing since the moment we met.
Im new to this and the fact that my friends are calling me a cougar doesnt make me feel any better. Just never refer to his age in a bad light because that is his Achilles Heel; it's what his mother nags him about. That means no joking about him being an old man or way, way worse… an old fart. Recoils in horror. Heaven forbid you ever, ever, use the f-word! Just understand that his cooking you dinner is not the same as you two cooking together.
That being said, early on, a lot of the magic so to speak is due to the appeal of their age. So just keep your inner-psycho on a leash for a couple months, kay?
Some of them are man-children. Smart girls with personality can rejoice after years of griping that guys never give them a chance because the boys have finally grown up!
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