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Are you allergic to bros in WWJD bracelets? Well, at least on that last point, anyway. If it sounds like I have it out for Christian dudes, well, I should tell you—I am one. But still, I find myself wary of guys and gals who are, you know, too Christian. Speaking for myself and all the other SCDs who never stood a chance in this modern dating labyrinth, I think we deserve a shot. You may just be thinking about us all wrong.
In no way does it guarantee a loving, respectful, submissive, Christian wife who wants to please God by honoring me as her husband. Those are two totally different things. By your logic, God wants all people to be well fed, and so living in his will automatically means that we will never go hungry.
How well is that logic working for some of the poorer Christians in poor parts of Africa or Afghanistan? Or even poor parts of the US? This is the problem with Western Theology: it assumes that God will always give you whatever you want if you just pray long and hard enough.
We never consider that God would bless their marriage selections because God believes in the union and covenant of godly marriages no matter which wives they chose. Being holy without also being a good-looking, charismatic, top-status man is absolutely useless for finding a wife. Been there and done that.
So have many other godly men who followed advice like yours. Reply to Justin Campbell, regarding some of your comments to the lady on this thread who is saying church is a place of prayer, not a dating site, etc. I am pretty much on your side in this debate, but I do want to add — as someone who was a devout Christian for many years, wanted to be married, am still single past age 45 — neither strategy guarantees marriage. Trying did not work — stepping out in faith and putting action to faith did not work, either.
There are a lot of Christian singles who wanted to be married but it did not happen for them — God is not providing for them, regardless if the person is passive sat around and prayed or active about trying to get married tried going to singles functions at churches or tried dating sites.
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Reply to Ms. But I will share one or two. Which means, a lot of single adults will end up possibly going to seedy, immoral bars and night clubs. And from there, they might possibly be enticed into getting drunk and engaging in one night stands. If you believe that Christians should marry only other Christians, does it not make more sense that you as a Christian facilitate Christian-on-Christian marriages?
Do you want to risk a Christian going out and looking for love at a local bar and end up getting married to an atheist?
If you want more Christian marriages, I am always reading about Christians having conniption fits because Christian marriage rates are downwould it not make more sense for your church to help Christian singles get married to Christian singles?
I appreciate you being bold enough to say it. Thanks Shannon. For sure we all need to be called out, and we all need to be shown grace. All of us. Your approach seems good to me. The big thing is to actually meet the girl. To me you want to be confident and be yourself and meet them.How To Flirt with Your Crush (In Church) ?
Then maybe the second or third time you might ask for some contact info — if it seems right. At the very least it helps to have people in your life that you trust that know what you are doing and can speak into it.
That helps with all things, including dating.
Modern dating culture can be quite daunting. It can be especially awkward when dating or “courting” someone in your church. Here are some tips on how to. Here's why Christian guys date outside their church. very simple why a guy dates a girl outside his own church – it's cause he likes her. Dating a guy who goes to church is like finding a diamond in the rough.
One thing I do want to add in here and get to the root of the discussion that Ms. Sahiyena posted. She wrote the following….
While surfing the net I came across this article about why dating church guys is a good idea. I thought the list was interesting and pretty accurate. However, to ascribe oneself to some religion is one thing but to follow its rules, like going to church, is another. So, if you met a guy and you know he takes his. Are you freaked out by the idea of dating an SCD—you know, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her' (Ephesians But dating a guy who wants to hold off on sex has some serious benefits.
Which is true. However we as believers need to remember that the church is us, the body of believers worshipping Christ. We also go to fellowship with like minded believers.
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We go for the corporate worship but to fellowship, have accountability with, and enjoy wonderful friendships with brothers and sisters in Christ. Essentially what happens in the church is an example of what will happen in heaven! Anyway, if someone is going to church most likely a non believer or young babe in Christ in order TO pickup a lady, then that is the wrong. Because their heart is in the wrong place, which has happened to all of us in different ways at some points in our walk.
Obviously no mature believer is going to hit on a lady during worship service, Sunday school class, bible study, etc. If a guy did, that gal should get red flags and run far far away! Getting to know a lady who loves the Lord where both individuals are amongst other married believers in fact is a very God honoring way to meet and marry. Doing so within the body of believers that make up the church allows for accountability between a man and woman.
It also allows for biblical guidance and counsel from other married believers who can help guide these two young individuals to a solid Christ centered marriage where God sanctifies them both through that marriage. Sahiyena — I may be mistaken from your post, but when I read it, it came across as believers are only to show up to church for prayer and worship singing hymns, reading of scripture and then go home.
Sometimes she would sit next to me in church. Small talk after church. We both came through a very dark, and sad period in our lives …. In a bigger church I am sure it is hard enough, but most Americans who attend church go to ones under people. Like me. What was I to do? I had to surrender further to Christ and finally accept that I was going to be a lifelong bachelor.
I did it before I would get so bitter and jaded IN church or regretful of a decision to follow Christ, which I could not the devil win on.
Christ wants a joyful servant. I have to say, since I made this choice in June. Life has been easier and I have been feeling a lot better.
A lot of this problem today Justin honestly is that our pastors, many lay leaders, deacons or what-have-you are in uncharted waters themselves. My Officer has been married since You have a VERY large segment of the never married, the single-mom, and divorced now strolling in, expecting answers…. The singles in church today are going have to a a lot of the footwork themselves.
They are just going to have to do it. They are going have trust and obey and really soak in the Word. They are going to have to fellowship in some way and they are going to have to hold themselves accountable. Great post. Of course I could go to the store and buy some groceries and cook some food, but where is my exercising faith and proving God in that.
However, keep in mind that society has changed quite substantially, but this teaching has not.
From previous experience, the most genuine guys I've met have been through church. I got so fed up with guys dating with bad intentions that. In the church as a guy, if you never approach anyone then you are obviously passive, and not a real Christian leader. But if you approach too. I also accept the fact that some boy may want to date her. I'll also be heading to jail that day (kidding of course). What do I mean by “church.
In my case I am generally well received by women until the money thing hits—5 of my 6 relationships have ended because of that—and in 1 of those cases was making enough to support a family I still had a job, but it basically just paid my billsand another girl was making six figures, but dumped me for another guy making six figures and had a house.
He never paid me back. My sister also had a long time, live in, boyfriend who she financially supported for over two decades.
He seldom had jobs, and when he got them, they were very low paying ones. I just want you to be aware that the financial thing is not always difficult on men, women have problems in this area as well.
I just did a blog post the other day about this crime story I read about in the news that happened several years ago — a divorced women, age late 50s, was well-off financially. She worked as some kind of therapist or what not, had her own practice, owned a nice house. She dated a man she met on a dating site. She allowed him to move in with her. He proposed marriage, she said yes, but asked him to sign a pre nup.
That made him so angry, he murdered her. One of the reasons I would say is that there are people in the church that meddles in affairs lives of others that they have no business with. IF we are supposed to date other Christians, then why are the members of set church being so overbearing about young singles?
Pingback: On backaches, singlehood, and faith. Thinking Outside the Funnel. Shawn is dead on!!! One married couple who did a lot of this took pride in setting up relationships while their own marriage was breaking up!!! They denied this, but it was well known throughout the church.
Sadly, this is a fairly common occurrence. I met this guy in church. I went outside there was the guy I saw in ma dream. I thought oh my God is this a sign. He dropped ma friends 1st then lastly me. He asked for ma name I told him. He called me back he asked for ma number and asked if he could see me later I told him of course.
I saw him come in …He sat infront of me. He was also dancing but way different than his usual dance. In my opinion, there are many men out there as wolves but in sheep clothing. They appears as though they are the right sort of guy only ending up to take something so dear from you and walk away. More needs to be done to discern this kind of men. Not that this particular guy is one but it seems to me that he might be.
If you require closure from him, you might want to have a word to clear things. But be sure that you are moving on. One important word in the bible in proverbs in such cases is that you should always guard your heart closely.
Not saying you should become mean spirited to other men because you are safeguarding yourself, I am saying with more discernment, accountability and discipline, better decisions and judgement calls will be made in the future. I have ben a strong believer in Christ since It is true that going to Church just to find a cute girl to date is not a Godly idea for attending Church. However, in Church, you have definitely a much higher likelihood of finding a Godly woman than any other place, like a college or a university.
And it is a good idea to look for a Godly woman in Church because the Scripture tells us not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers and that Church is a community of believers coming together. For these reasons, I think Church is the best place to find a Godly girlfriend or wife. I have been blacklisted in 2 churches…still the search continues…hahaha. It is hard especially when people know you are in church looking for a wife. Needless to say I no longer attend and serve there. I just think all church women are fake.
Hint I was seeking to find a wife not a booty call, or a screw buddy which is what all the women at my church was looking for.
I always interacted with these women in a safe public place and never tried to take any of them to my home or go to theirs. I was always very respectable and even with that my Pastor was told by a few of them that I was in so many words starker them even thought we were only going to local parks walking and I was always very respectable.
Church women are a mess. The are danger to a good Godly man or any man that looking to grow in God. Many of them are only hiding behind the church acting and playing the role that they are all good and screwing every man in the world that cant be found out by the member of their local church.
I agree that dating should not be the reason for anyone to go to church. But it also applies to friendships as well. If one doesit makes the friendship awkward and even calculated. I became friends with someone when I was in high school, and was upfront about wanting to know what religion I was and if I wanted to go to church with her. He planned out these elaborate dates, when he barely even knew me. He wanted me to feel comfortable, and he wanted to know everything — my likes, dislikes, passions.
He was genuinely interested, and tried so hard to make everything special. I learned to respect other churches. He led by example. His church is so strong in him and he knew that by living the way his God wanted him to, he would help inspire others. He would always do the right thing so his two little brothers had a role model to look up to, and that is something that still sticks with me. For all these reasons, I wish him well.
I was able to see firsthand the way religion shaped him, and why the qualities he has, are the qualities I still look for in a guy. Every relationship teaches something. This taught me a lot more then I ever bargained for. Sign in. Friendship ensues, friendship turns to affection, affection turns to love, and off they go. Sometimes the simplest reason it happens is just because he likes the girl and wants to get to know her better. Here we go. I guess this is a universal one huh?
On the flip side, there are some amazing women in our church walls. Women full of grace, understanding, direction and calling. Many women I know go in to bat for the great women they know, and I fully agree with you.
What Dating A Religious Guy Taught Me I learned to respect other churches. I' ve always been tolerant of every religious belief, but after going to church with.
You need to man up, you need to be an initiator — you know the drill. Once again, I want to give credence to the two sides here. I never actually used to think that this one was true — my experience has been the opposite for the most part here with the guys I know. This one falls to you personally, gents. That said, I know plenty of guys who go after the girls they want to get to know better. Men in leadership are often highly visible. Their lives are talked about and talked from.
If they speak on stage, run key teams or have any other prominent role, their life is under constant surveillance and scrutiny. Before and after church, everyone wants to talk to them.
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