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It was a refreshing break from my last few first dates, all of which took place in the shadowy glow of dive bars around town. On those dates, the routine was to immediately order drinks and watch the night descend into a blur. I immediately felt my stomach sink a little bit. I very much enjoy a brunch-time mimosa especially those bottomless babies and a few gin and tonics on the weekends. Drinking, while not integral to my life, is a social and recreational activity I do partake in once a week or so. I like tasting new beers and cocktails.
So I thought, W hy not?
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From going vintage shopping to hiking to singing karaoke, Adam and I rarely get bored. And when I want to drink around him, I do. I am, however, cognizant about my drinking around him.
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When that happens, I can tell Adam is annoyed — not at me, per se, but at the situation. If he could hit a joint with me every now and then?
It can add a new layer of connection and even trust. But the pros of our relationship outweigh any of the minor cons of not being able to drink or smoke together.
In a world where "Let's get drinks" is a good opening line, it can be hard to navigate sober dating. Fortunately, once you do, you learn a lot.
I respect his choices and his boundaries, and he does the same with me. Strangely enough, when it comes to nightlife, Adam is actually more social than I am.
He is out most nights at a show or hanging out with friends. It was the proof glue that held me and many a past partner together.
You get the idea. While those boozy flings were sometimes fun, in the long run, I decided they were bad for both my mental wellbeing and my poor liver.
Giving back was always something I thought about but, honestly, I was too busy trying to balance work, partying, and destructive relationships. I also want to check out The Burrito Project at some point. Again, let your passions guide you here. If politics are more your speed, see what opportunities exist in your neighborhood at the local level.
Getting involved in the community opens you up to a whole new class of people.
You have to have your shit together and be passionate in order to commit. There are also other sober communities that you can participate as a way of meeting others. Just be careful about dating too soon in these groups. Lean on your friends and family.
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Do some research and see if your city has any local matchmakers. Often times these services will also come with general socializing opportunities and invites to exclusive members-only events. She has a fabulous service with a focus on creatives and untraditional types.
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I found and signed up for an alcohol-free speed dating event hosted by The Tantra Institute of New York later this month in LA and they host events in many major cities around the country. Most are men-seeking-women and women-seeking-men but there are occasional queer versions of the event too. Walk more, take public transportation… give yourself more opportunities to be around people.
Before I got sober, the idea of going on a date and not having several drinks was nonexistent. Dating was just excuse to imbibe, and being an. According to psychologist and relationship expert Nicole McCance, it's often best to be up-front with your date and tell them you don't drink. Dating's hard as it is. For those in recovery from substance abuse, or simply don't drink, it can be even harder. It's not an easy conversation to.
Once I got sober, the substance that began to matter to me most was that of the personality of the person I chose to spend my time with, and just how much time I spent with them before I peaced out. I also learned I never have to have sex unless I want to.
I am allowed to say no whenever I want. Sometimes regaining confidence can be an adjustment that takes some time.3 TIPS FOR DATING IN SOBRIETY
Remember to be patient with yourself. And if you already feel uncomfortable being naked in front of someone, it could be a sign that you're not quite ready to sleep with them, no matter how body-positive you are.
Well, there you are. Turns out this is a pretty exciting moment, huh? As Dr. Potter points out, in sobriety, the act of sex itself might be approached in a different way.