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Multiple studies suggest the key to a long and prosperous life is not eating beets and drinking sad green juices all the time, but rather something much more enjoyable -- dating younger women. It's for your health, after all. Hold onto your dicks, my dudes. One of the woes younger women tend to deal with when it comes to dating are men playing games with them. You also need romance and intellectual passion to keep the spark alive.
The thing to do now is give things a chance to develop. The longer you go worrying about this, watching for her on IM, etc, the weirder you get, so hurry and make plans. Wait for her to come online. If 2 days go by and you don't see her online, send her a text and ask if you can set up a date to sit online and IM. See how she responds. Once you've talked online once or twice, see if you can set up an in-person date. I wouldn't suggest something like that generally, but she is young and it is possible she's freaked out by the age difference, and I'm not sure what you can do if that's the case.
For some 18 year olds, 25 is too old for a boyfriend; I think at 18, I would have felt freaked out by that and I'm not sure there's anything any guy could have done to make that feeling go away.Dating a Younger Man
And I'm sure I would have felt extra guilty about talking to the guy in the bar, too, when I knew I could never seriously date someone that much older than me. Good luck to you, but if she seems reticent, try not to take it personally. Call her this weekend, invite her out somewhere. You may be interested in imwatching.
Some caveats though - is this girl still in high school? To put it another way, does she live with her parents? Many parents would not look kindly upon this sort of age-difference, though many won't care in the slightest.
Your age difference is not inherently that awkward. Think hard about whether she is mature enough to be your equal in a relationship - act acoordingly.
Look, either she's freaked out, or she isn't. Ask her out, she can say "yes", or "no". The only uncertainy here is in your head, not hers. I would also 2nd Pink in regards to the possible age issue, and with respect to that I would suggest treading lightly.
An over-eager contact though any medium may only serve to reinforce possible worries about the age difference. I would suggest making contact but keeping things friendly on your end and letting the romantic elements come along slowly. First things first - chill out and stop obsessing.
Stop hanging out by the computer waiting for her name to pop up on IM. Stop checking your phone compulsively. Once again, relax and go on about your normal life and see if you can hang out with her or something. There's nothing wrong with the age difference imo.
So how did you get her number so that you were able to send a text to her phone? That part of the story is missing. You're 25, she's I'm going to ignore the probable parental problems, and just focus on how to get this girl.
You're not going to do anything today or tomorrow. You're also not going to send a text message to set up an IM conversation. That's stupid- that's what 18 year olds do. Instead, you're going to be focused and mature. Tuesday night, you're going to text her and ask her if she wants to grab a cup of coffee. If she says she can't do it, but says Thursday or something, do it then, that's fine.
If she's in a perpetual hesitation, things aren't looking good. It'll probably be her parents, as girls love dating older guys. If the coffee goes well, take her out to dinner on the weekend. If you must stalk her, stalk her intelligently. She probably has a MySpace page and a Facebook account. Find it and go learn more about her. Uh, don't stalk her. When I was 18, my age limit on boyfriends was I thought guys who were say, 7 years older, were all grown up and wise and mature and stuff.
Be cool, not hot and bothered. Pursue occasionally say once a week. Something quirky. I was that girl three years ago. If it's any encouragement, we're getting married now. I would have been -very- offended that you got my number by sending a call to yourself when the intention was for you to simply type your number in. Doesn't mean you can't recover though.
Just be available and don't push.
Age doesn't matter Maintain conversation. Unexpected had good advice there. I think it is possible to recover from the phone number steal if she did, in fact, view it as a negative by following b33j's advice. I expect to be important enough that a man would be willing to plan out a few days. So, it seems to me that it's now very early Tuesday where you are. Call or text her today. Let her know in your own words that you would like to spend some more time with her.
Suggest coffee or other very public yet cozy, low key activity. Not a movie or a long walk on a beach. Don't bring flowers, but if you got your St Patrick's Day hat back from her, you might give it to her again to keep, or some other small thing that she might have mentioned. Very small. Nothing more than, well, make it small. I was 19 when my now-husband asked me out for the first time.
He was He was a wonderful gentleman, brought me a rose on each date, and got me a really nice Christmas gift and the most precious card I've ever received from anyone.
But when I was 19, I was really, really stupid. I was intelligent I think so, anywayand he knew that we were meant to be together, but I was too wrapped up in my own dumb world to realize it. So I told him I wasn't ready for anything serious, and we stopped dating.
Fast forward to age Not much older, but a heckuva lot smarter and ready for a real relationship. I saw him in Wal-Mart and emailed him the next day.
We got married 15 months later. We celebrated our 6-year anniversary last November and we're blissfully happy.
Dating woman 7 years younger
My best advice to you would be to not freak her out too much. Most teenage girls - even if they are intelligent and charming and great - are still teenagers. Try your best not to overwhelm her with gifts and sentiments, but do show her that you care, if you continue to care about her after you get to know each other better.
Just don't go overboard or you might scare her away, especially if she realizes deep down that she cares about you, too. Best wishes to you! I hope everything works out nicely.
I didn't even bother reading anything but the first sentence. So here goes: Rule 1: If you are nervous person around people, then you're going to have to push yourself a bit.
Take a moment, when that rush of "oh my god, this isn't going to work" kick in, and say to yourself, "I'm not going to pass this opportunity up!
If I don't at least tryI'll never get anything out of this. Be care-free but resolute, my friend! Don't worry about anything, otherwise you'll think everything is a mistake!
You are good to go Just relax. She probably has no idea what to do just like you. That being said, we have no idea what's going on in her head, she may have forgotten all about you or she could be reliving your little meeting every few minutes. I say this as a once 17 year old who was bowled over when a 24 year old guy became interested in me. First, it was really flattering because you think everyone that age is SO wise and SO mature and whatnot but also a little scary because I didn't know what I was getting into, what he would be expecting of me, so to speak.
I was such a sad teenager, mind you, I used to refresh my e-mail account waiting eagerly for his next mail and then time the difference between how long it had taken him to reply and wait the same amount to return his e-mail because I didn't want to appear "over eager". But, anyway. Enough about my stalkery habits. I'd probably take it easy for now. If you must, physically remove yourself from the computer and take a bit of a break and try to get her out of your head.
You have no idea what's going to happen between you two and you don't want to move too fast. I remember with my boyfriend, at least, he was hesitant to pursue a relationship because of the age difference and that made me want to push forward with it, in a way to convince him?
My best advice would be to send a text in the next couple of days mentioning you had a good time on Saturday night and were wondering if you could maybe do something similar later in the week?
It would be a familiar social setting you're both previously used to and if you really wish, mention you'll be bringing some mates along too if you want to turn it into a group date. And before I forget, make sure she's actually 18! Not to say that she was lying or anything, but she may have thought you'd freak out if she was any younger Good luck and my e-mail's in the profile if you have any other questions.
You have to back away.
Even if you two were the same age, it seems that you stole her number and are the only one making any effort. If not, find another girl. For some reason, i thought the girl you were talking about was I sound so sleazy. She went out of her way to give you her screenname and texted you back. Sounds like she's interested to me, so don't give up or get down on yourself.
Young girls can be flighty, though. So don't take it as rejection if she forgets to log onto IM when she says she will. Go ahead and text her and ask her if she wants to hang out. She texted you back.
So she either a doesn't care or b liked it, because she answered and the answer wasn't "how did you get my number freak?? Make sure she's actually Do notunder any circumstances, send her a text message arranging an IM meet-up time. Sorry to the poster, but that might be the worst advice ever.
I Met “The One” But He's 7 Years Younger Than Me and to be flexible, but dating a man who's seven years younger than me has pushed me to my limits. 1. All the talk of women who dated younger guys and got burned is just making more. @Apexbreed: Yeah, I feel you bro. I can already see signs of immaturity. But shes cool as hell, and sexy as hell. She is 18 afterall. I'll ride it out. Let's put it simple. I'd like to get a date with a cool, intelligent, 18 years old girl that I met last saturday on a pub. I'm 25, haven't been in a.
Talk about geeky If not, just back off. Women had little ability to earn income. Their husband was their access to social standing and economic stability. Obviously, an older man had more time to achieve a greater number of personal and financial goals.
Relationship expert Rachel Russo also felt the rule had no basis in fact - but could see why it had endured. As for the endurance of the rule, Russo thinks it may have something to do with men being attracted to younger women.
by Justin Brown November 7, , am I'm a 37 year old male and have been dating women 10 years + younger than me throughout. 7 things that could happen when you're dating someone younger than you opinion about your new partner who's a few years behind you. So, I'm proposing this "8-year rule" in dating as an absolute. I've dated (or tried to date) women who are older, younger and, if you'll believe it.
But for relationship expert Rachel DeAltothe old rule is pretty helpful in determining suitable age differences. While age is truly just a number, successful significant relationships are based on mutual understanding and connection.
However, how much can we really rely on a rule written from the perspective of an early 20th-century male? Try it at whatever age you like, and you will find it works very well, taking for granted all the while that, after all, a man as well as a woman is the age that he looks and feels. You can find our Community Guidelines in full here. Want to discuss real-world problems, be involved in the most engaging discussions and hear from the journalists?
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Age difference is not as significant as maturity difference. My parents are 8 years apart but met when they were 26 and They were both. Ever heard of the rule that men should date women who are half their age plus seven? It turns out to be relatively well established, dating back more than years to a book by Max O'Rell. by men who want to justify dating younger, and less mature, women? 7) “Can You Feel the Love Tonight?. I met a woman years younger than me, and she's interested. But recently she specifically asked if I wanted to "be her date" for an outing with her friends.
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