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Chat or rant, adult content, spam, insulting other members, show more. Harm to minors, violence or threats, harassment or privacy invasion, impersonation or misrepresentation, fraud or phishing, show more. Yahoo Answers. I am new to this site. My name is Sammi or Samantha and I desperately need help. We both still live with Mom and Dad. I love my brother very much and I'm afraid he's going to get hurt.
I know it sounds like a soap opera, but your replies have been helpful. I think I just needed to get this off of my chest. Yes, I realized I was about to hit this girl. I should have just walked away and minded my own business, but what this girl said to me was I should have just walked away and minded my own business, but what this girl said to me was horrible I won't repeat it and she's been mean to me too, even though I've tried to be nice to her--still it doesn't justify what I nearly did.
My bro and I have had our disagreements too, but overall I think he's a terrific guy and I want to see him happy and I hate to see him so miserable.
I think the thing to do is let things cool down a little. Then tell him "I'm sorry for the other night. I know I should have butted out, but if you ever want to talk about anything, I'm here for you. Report Abuse. Are you sure you want to delete this answer?
Nov 9, - These are the signs that you are dating a sociopath (all examples are physically assaulting his own brother (because he frequently beats him. Sep 13, - It is such an ego boost for the sociopath to feel as if they are . Emails to my mother, my brother, my friends with a fake apology that he wished. Jun 11, - Well, your a pebble in the rough with this, to see you took the time to type all this you love your brother, and the girl is a (unt and he shouldn't.
Yes No. Answers Relevance. Rating Newest Oldest. But, I think you should apologize, and say somethin' like "Hey, I'm sorry, I just hate the way that she treats you, your my brother, and I love you, I don't like seeing you hurt. If they hate her too, you 3 should all talk to him, and get it straightened out, and get him to listen. Best of luck to ya Sam, Steve. Source s : Life experience. Add a comment. Dating Psychos. You have expressed your concern for him, even if it upsets him, its not about you.
I'm sure he's feeling conflicted about his situation and just needs to process this. I think if she's not happy with him, she will hopefully leave the relationship sooner than later. Give him a few days, just ask how he's doing and let him know you're there if he wants to talk. That way you're not imposing your feelings on him and he can decide when and if he wants to talk. You're a good sis. Wow, similar situation to what i once had, the only difference was that my brother didn't get mad at me.
I had a bad time at trying to control my temper when i was near his now ex. So, you should ask yourself, if you were dating a guy who was treating you in the same way, what would your brother do? If you honestly think your brother would do something about it, then you should too. Yes, you should apologize, and talk to your brother gently, tell him that you just care about him etc. Love is blind, my brother still hasn't completely realized how his ex treated him.
If you don't want to go that far, just warn her to back off a bit, if it still doesn't work, and you know that you and your bro would make things up is you ever fell out, then go for it.
What angered me the most was that my brother is too much of a gentleman, he NEVER raised his voice to her, he didn't have much of a job but still always managed to treat her. Anyway, i think you should do something whether it's warning her or beating her up.
Because, what happens if they move in together, the emotional abuse would you say? I know her kind she's a demanding abusive control freak. And, hopefully your brother will realize that you did whatever you did because you care about him.
But definitely talk to him first, explain the situation etc, if he still doesn't listen then intervene. I've warned mine that i will kill not literally the next girl who treats him like that, and i can cause he'd do the same for me, both my brothers would actually.
Edit: ignore those who tell you there's nothing you can do. PS: Ask him what he would do if a guy was stopping you from seeing your friends and treating you in such a way.
See what he says.her BROTHER was a PSYCHOPATH... (Reacting to True Animations)
And: let me know how things work out, email: sukie yahoo. Source s : experience. Damnn this is a tough one, I too have a brother that I love very much and if he had a woman like that I'm not sure how I act. Show him that he deserves a woman to treat him better and that you know soo many woman that would die to be a good woman for him.
Show him that she is dragging the sweetness out of him and ask him to be honest and say "Honestly, you are going to tell me you do not feel weak inside when she carries on like that?
Tell him you apologize for budding in and that you love him and hate to see him upset. We are going onto our fifth year of separation, 3 nearly total lack of any contact — apart from my annual postal birthday and xmas gifts — each being received but unacknowledged. Yes a bit off topic but thank you for highlighting this growing problem. Parental Alienation is child abuse, pure and simple.
I ask a friend who has know the father of my son since he was 19 and he is now I did message and ask my friend in his opinion did he think the father of my child was a sociopath? I am so sorry Cat, losing your children, is the most painful experience that any mother can ever go through. I read a good book about this years ago, but I cannot remember the name for it, perhaps do a google search?
I think I bought it on Amazon, I cant remember what it was called. A few others have said that same to me. Took me 18 months to realize that my girl friend was a sociopath. Working on getting out of it right now. She has two kids from her exhusband who love me dearly and whom i love. The biggest sign for me right away was that her stories always seemed to change. If i asked her the same question four times it was four different replies.
The most hurtful part was every fight was my fault! They refuse to not win and will never back down. And they will make you feel terrible. She totally has the sociopathic stare, to a T!! I just realized that. The other thing is the constant need for male facebook attention. Friends with every exboyfriend even though they were cheating douche bags.
The two huge things to me are a things that bother me are my issue, not hers to change. She posts Christian messages while posting bikini pictures from 10 years ago. The sex thing is HUGE, constantly telling me how lucky i am that we have sex often and how her male friends only get sex once a month. She repeats this often. She matches the exact male description you posted.
She takes zero ownership and accountability even over inconsequential stuff. The best part is when they wrong or hurt you, a normal person just apologizes, but a sociopath gets mad and attacks. She is a product of a sordid childhood in which both parents were into some very bad stuff.
So you are still with her? The most crazy time with the sociopath — is when you are trying to leave the relationship.
You are quite right now they use god and religion, it is really quite crazy, I do need to re-write posts to make it gender neutral, as it really does apply to both sexes.
I expect you will find it difficult leaving the children? Most likely anyway. She will do anything to control and to win. That is the most important thing. When are you planning to leave? Do be aware that the worst of the crazy behaviour will come out then.
Done, friday night. I left town. Total Rage! Saturday afternoon, accused me of cheating. I laughed out loud. Sent me a text to revisit something we talked about last night. Oh well done Joseph!!!! How are you feeling now? Trust me! Dude — you should call up her ex-husband. I bet the exhusband lets you see the kids when they are with him. Talk about a good way to exact revenge on her! It took me 15 years to wake up. You explained what I went through exactly.
It is nice to see some writing on female sociopaths, albeit it would be nice to see more. I was in a relationship with a girl for the last six years who I now know is a sociopath. I am a normal guy and very much believe in an equal partnership, financially and emotionally.
In otherwords I do not have loads of money and I never dated golddiggers. What I offered was a strong and loving family, a lack of baggage, and zero trust issues.
It made me the perfect target for a girl who was extremely attractive, younger, and coming out of what she described as an abusive relationship where she was cheated on and betrayed.
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It took myself and my family a year or two before the initial lies started to counterdict each other. She had lied about her past education, work, travel, and general upbringing. Finally she admitted to me she had been a stripper, but had stopped when we began dating. I loved her, I wanted to believe her, and most of all I thought she could change with help as at this point we were well into all the signs that have been described on this site and I was flopping between insanity and love, I was so incredibly confused at why she would attack me and accuse me of things I had never done, like cheating.
We set the slate clean and prepared to move forward with honesty — it wasnt an ideal situation, but hell, what is I told myself…and I really care about this girl, we have an incredible connection, its worth the fight. I became determined with my help she could find something she loved she was working as a bartender and host, or so I thought.
What ensued was another several years of lies, manipulation, and a temultuous relationship that turned me into at times a monster I never thought I was capable of becoming. I broke up with her a dozen times over these years, but was unable to stay away. Yes, she did use sex to manipulate me to get back together, but I truly loved her or at least the side of her she had created for me, if I am understanding properly. I am still unsure of the true extent of the lies and betrayal over six years.
She certainly had not stopped stripping for all or periods of it and I found this out when she texted me to tell me she was doing so. I went to the club she said she was at and found her in a private room lapdancing a guy with her top off…it was the worst moment of my life, she was on drugs, laughed and gave me the finger. Why that was not the end and why I am still a year later pushing from grieve stage to grief stage without acceptance, I am just starting to understand — sort if.
She played me so well, telling me what I wanted to hear, sleeping with me just often enough. Afterall, I broke up with her, broke her heart, this was all my fault she said. My value weakened and her respect for me deteriorated as I became more depressed and easier for her to manipulate I think at times just another client so to speak.
My brother is dating a sociopath
This is not a girl who looks like a stripper or acts as one, she is everyone would agree naturally beautiful and equally as charismatic. She gave up the lease on her place, changed her phone number, and I suspect has easily convinced her friends I am crazy and obsessed with her who knows what elseas I did most certainly send a flurry of messages since that time, ranging from anger to begging.
I get gossip regularly it seems how she had been cheating in me with dozens of guys over the years…I think for me this is the hardest now, I met many of the guys she is rumoured to have cheated with, several many many times.
The club scene wasnt my world, it was hers. The only contact I have had with her since this is an email, which I begged her to send me many times and finally threatened to tell her new BF she had been with me when they had started dating — it told me in no kind words it was over and I should move on…an attempt at closure for me, which insanely has not worked.
I am a smart guy who dated very good looking and intelligent girls all my life, and I am still confused how this has happened to me and why I cannot seem to move on? I am insanely embarrassed and lonely, it is rather pathetic and I long for the stage of acceptance, unsure it will ever come.
Dated a sociopath for a while. Best way I can describe it is Now she has been disowned by her brother and is never allowed in my home. Is she knocks on my. May 13, - If he's an asshole and dangerous, tell her so, but remember she makes her own choices Should I let my brother know that he is a sociopath?Do married sociopaths or psychopaths love their spouse? Nov 6, - Yes, I'm a sociopath and I'm the first to admit that dating me can be an interesting experience. It's often difficult to interact and compromise with.
Hi Zippy, thank you for taking the time to write to me. It sounds like you have been through quite a lot in those six years!!! It is also difficult to come to terms that you had been dating someone who is really, not the person that she made herself out to be. The continuing to hurt you through social networking is very common for male victims of female sociopaths, as they write how much better they are doing without you, with someone who is richer, more successful, or whatever else it is that they think will press your buttons.
It is sad, but to them this is just a game. Her new partner is also a victim to her game. Lying about you, saying that you are obsessed with her, is all part of her strategy and no doubt she is playing victim of all YOU did to her, making you doubt yourself, and think that you are the bad guy. Your not. Sociopaths are disordered people. Their brain thinks differently, they see life as a game, and others as players in their game.
If they are not winning and getting what they want with you, they will find someone else to play the game with. Which means, block her number, block her social media, block email. Mutual friends are negative for you. It wont help you to build self esteem. Know that you are not the only one. Each time she hurts you, it means that you are still in the game for her to be able to. The only way to truly start healing, is to block contact, and focus on you. You CAN do it…. I just got out of a relationship with a female sociopath.
She was just as you described to a T. She came in my life like a whirlwind of sex, seduction, beauty and desire but with a sad past. Cheating ex boyfriends, college pregnancy, strict parents that misunderstand her. She conned me out of some money and then stole my credit card and ran up some charges.
Then just as fast as she came she was gone. Of course it was my fault that the relationship was over. I tried to talk to her, tried to get her back but was met with a cold shell of the person that she used to be.
She tried to disappear however I have filed a police report for the credit card fraud and theft. Hopefully the police can finally get her off the streets and save her next victim whom I hear is an overweight doctor that she keeps going back to.
Good luck with that, you might not get money back from her, but your credit card company might give it back. My bank gave me money back that he stole from me. She ordered things from an online company on her cell phone.
They fully cooperated with me and gave me all the details plus the IP address. I traced the IP address to a tower about a block away from where she works.
Apparently she tried to steal a large sum of money from him too however his bank flagged it as fraud and stopped the purchase. Sometimes she even made plans to see him and lied to me, saying she was with family or friends. How do I know all this? I accidentally saw one of his text messages one saturday, when she left her phone out in front of me. I looked at it expecting it to be her girl friend, who we expected over, and who frequently got lost on the way to our place.
I confronted her, wanting to know who he was, and she lied, saying he was some weird guy friend from college. I tried to give her a chance to come clean, but she continued lying, until I presented her with the evidence.
She confessed to seeing this other man on and off, for most of our relationship. She said she liked the attention. I threw her out at that point, even though she was crying and begging me not to end things. How could I not? She had be lying to me for almost six years. Her phone number is blocked, as is her email addresses.
My friends have told me not to look at it that way. We frequently had problems, usually stemming from our sex life, and would fight about it. They tended to involve her inability to get aroused or lack of needing sex very often. I had blamed myself, since this was also my first serious, adult relationship I had dated a few women before her, but they never lead to anything seriousand would eventually assume I needed to be more patient. Now I realize it was that she was being fulfilled elsewhere.
I paid most of the bills, bought most of the food, and owned most of our furniture. I also lavished her with nice gifts, and like I said, was planning to ask her to marry me this summer. Boy do I feel like a damned fool…. Hi McC thank you for your comment. It is good that you have blocked off communication with her, this will allow healing and focus on you and your life.
Although the hurt and pain remains, that you put all that time and effort into someone who was not being honest with you.
I know that hurts. Its usually best no matter how hard it is to focus on you and not the sociopath!! Then you will be the winner, as you have the ability to love and to feel…. After reading some of your entries, and also some other stuff concerning sociopaths, I actually feel a bit better.
I felt like I was crazy, as I was the only one who seemed to think she was a sociopath. Friends and family told me that she was just a girl with issues and needed to get her head sorted out.
I still find it very difficult to get back out and meet people. I was never great at meeting women to begin with, but am extremely skittish now. Hi McC Just wanted to say I have pretty much exactly the same story as you its pretty horrific what they can do!
I even found out the same way as you through txts on her phone it came as such a shock. We had only moved out into a flat together 3 months before. Stupidly I paid for pretty much everything and all bills were in my name. I even got all furniture and stuff she wanted for flat even things like expensive hair straighteners top make up kitchen tuff she wanted etc. Its crazy how they can get you to spend all your money on them and I barely thought about it Id never do that normally! She got away with things because she was younger and had a low paid job which she kept changing!
I also chucked her out when I found out she was cheating on me with some guy she had met like one week before in a new job. She pretended to go to work met up with him wearing all sexy clothes then even got me to pick her up outside work with her uniform back on. I even showed her the txts id read and she had some weird story about it was someone at work trying to cause trouble! And she kept deleting messages on her new phone saying it was broken!
When I chucked her out after coming back to the flat because I thought she had him round but she lied saying it was a gf she laughed at me and gave me the most evil stare in the world and walked off with this guy she had just met I heard she moved in with him seriously like they met a few days before!
She had been going on for months about marriage and babies how much she loved me had a holiday booked we were buying clothes for it few days before these people are so crazy. Its been over 3 months no contact for me now im way better still not feeling like seeing anyone new I really thought this was my soul mate its so sick what they do! THis reassembles to what I went through. She went to work in a distant community and give me calls, Skype, texts, e-mails and all every day.
One night, she called me. I could hear she was in the tub having bath. Water was audible on my cell. Then I heard someone coughing behind. A man. Then he started talking. I asked explanations. She replied that the water is getting cold in the tub and she has to get out. And she hung up. What are you thinking? Later, when I challenged her, she said the lines were crossed. Then she said I was hearing voices all my own.
I never knew who was in her bed that night. SHe never accepted any wrong doing. She said I am obsessed and jealous and have to seek some therapy. That made her nuts… She was calling her sisters and talking about all these bs, that I am overly jealous and so what.
But never told the true story. I placed a recorded under the table to record her lies whilst I was out working. These people can destroy your life. Be very careful. This is not a game. If sex is too good, beware. What I understand from these posts here, sex is generally good with these vampires. Watch yourself. Know well with who you are dealing and disappear from their picture. You are a big support with this community. Great article! They both loved it.
When I brought my reservations about their work to their attention neither could understand and quickly passed the blame to the people that were being ripped off. It was pretty ridiculous. Thank God I caught the red flags at the time and got out. It was later when I put 2 and 2 together and figured out they were sociopaths. Ugh, my brother keeps falling for sociopathic girls.
They always seem to have some sort of problem they need a nice guy to fix for them. He has a big heart and falls for it hook, line, and sinker every time. Naturally, every time he responded it only made the whole ordeal last longer and fed the sociopaths ammunition.
He distrusts normal girls and falls for the sociopaths. At least it will keep him safe from all the heartache and stress this has caused him over the years. Put it this way…I am at peace. Yet knowing how much better it could be with a Queen…not desperation…true knowing. Do you really think that she is good for you? Or even that she is in a position to be in a relationship with anyone? If her ex is a sociopath they are very convincing and very manipulative and persuasive. They can do severe psychological damage.
Sometimes — some victims find it easier to return for yet another round of lies. It can take quite some time to break free. I know that you are hurting right now from what you write. But do you not think that perhaps it would be good to focus on you? On healing and recovering you?
And then you can decide what to do with a clear head? Hi, I think you need to make the decision how this is making you feel? From what you are writing it looks as if this is not making you feel too happy. Maybe you need to set yourself a timeframe how long you are going to do this for? For your own peace of mind and sanity. If she has came and gone a few times now, how many times can you go over the same thing?
And would you even be able to trust her now after everything that has happened? As without trust you really have nothing. I agree. Damaging your reputation by planting the seeds of doubt in people around you the preferred method. Society expects men to be strong. The female SP uses the Akido principle. She will sleep with your friend if it presented her an opportunity.
Then it would be your fault. You made her do it. I ask her if I can just leave, why she wont just let me leave and give her the house is beyond me other then she wants me hurt or in prison because she is mad that i no longer fall for her games….
Psychologist reveals the signs you might be dating a sociopath
I at one point was afraid to sleep in my own house because I thought she was going to slit my throat or worse have one of my former friends do it. Shallow emotions blunt any impact of nerves. She Will Give Zero Shits Ever brought a girlfriend home only to have her get into a fight with your mom about how the government handled Benghazi?
This will not happen with your sociopath girlfriend. She is definitely not a vegetarian. She understands that certain things are considered right and other things are considered wrong. She may even have her own idea of what is good and bad behavior in herself and others. She Will Be Great in Bed Lack of strong emotions plays out in the bedroom in a way that most find pleasantly surprising.
Sociopaths have zero shame in the bedroom, no insecurities about their bodies, and no performance anxiety. She Will Be Emotionally Unavailable If you have ever needed a sympathetic shoulder to cry on or have been that shoulder for someone else to cry on, you are probably not a sociopath.
On the other hand, your sociopath girlfriend thinks you look ugly when you cry. She will get angry. She may even punch you in the face to give you something to cry about. Seems awkwardly inappropriate at funerals? Be careful what you say in anger, because she has an unsettling tendency to take sarcasm or figures of speech literally. Otherwise she might make it happen.